Happiness - In our own hands?

Was talking to XW just now & telling her that the lower the expectations, the happier you will be. All along, dats my philosophy but was at the same time, emailing with a fren & i also brought up this issue of lowering expectations so as to stay happy & contented. She commented dat she thought lowering expectations would be lowering oneself's standard? Like forcing yourself to accept less? Wouldnt one be a 'lesser' person liao becos he/she expects less? Duno if u guys noe wat im talking about.

Sometimes, Chris would tell me dat he doesnt wana pamper me too much in case he's not able to maintain dat standard in the long term. Smart of him i would say but of cos, i nv say dat to him, lol. I tink in a r/s, taking each other for granted comes pretty easily as time goes on. Its so easy to expect him to fetch us places juz becos he was able to do for a period of time. Its so easy to expect nightly calls just becos he has been doing dat all along. Its so easy to expect him to offer help becos usually, he's very auto. I try to remind myself to not take things for granted. Dun expect dat he'll always wash dat cup after use juz becos he has been doing it for a few mths. Dun expect dat he will surely fetch me to the mrt in the mornings juz becos he has been doing it. Dun expect him to be just as attentive or sweet juz becos he was lidat last time.

I mean, we are all human beings & we do let things slide after a while. Even us women :) We are not longer as gentle, no longer as sweet & no longer as tolerant. Certainly no longer as sweet-tempered, lol. Its normal to take things for granted. Its normal to let things slide. Its normal to be taken for granted. So how? I think communication is the key loh. Juz say it out. Juz be straight to the point. Dun detour to Tuas & go to Changi when the destination is actually Redhill. Watever u r not hapi about, just say lar! But of cos, there r ppl who cannot take the truth.

A: Tell me, just tell me wat u r not hapi abt!

B: No, i jus wan to say blar blar blar

A: So? I still dun get it? Juz say can anot?

B: Ok, wat i reali tink is ABCDEFG

A: U fucked up chicken, u @%#$@%@, and i @%#$@% & u still @%#$@$.

Well, for ppl out there who have partners who cannt take the truth or juz simply duno how to listen (they do selective hearing mind u), u can only train them by continuing to tell the truth. Yes, you will be abused verbally & emotionally. But at least the truth is out rite? At least u've tried! *clap clap* Communication is so impt yet so difficult. We all have different frequencies. There is no rite or wrong. But lets juz try to tune to the same frequency to understand each other better :)

World Peace!