My New Blog

My new blog is not 100% ready yet but have posted abit :) Decided to use multiply instead cos i find it more useful & more things to do loh..heh...but i duno how to put tagboard there...will try to figure out how...but it seems like no need tagboard cos got this watever function...aiyah, anyway, see u guys there!

www.buaytahan.multiply.com

Thoughts

Have received my PB abt an hour ago :)

Happy & glad to have more cash on hand...so ever since we moved to our new place, some of the bills weren't paid promptly. Even when we use credit card to buy stuff, i will pay the next day or juz go to the nearest AXN to pay on the spot becos we only want the discount & the reward points of the credit cards loh. But usually, the last 2 or 3 credit card transactions for petrol goes unpaid until we get the next mth's pay.

But thankfully, this mth, due to an unexpected credit in the account, im able to 'start afresh' from next mth onwards! Hopefully can keep this up (no sudden weddin invites, mahjong debts, illnesses) & im really looking forward to next year.

When 2008 comes, its:

24 more yrs of housing loan

4 more yrs of renovation loan

infinite yrs of car loan (i tink i will change car after 5yrs)

Saving for my lasik operation, taking of the wedding pics & i really hope can go on a trip to Dubai with Chris Ang. Also at the same time, saving for all the car expenses. Proud to say dat when i chk the account today, surprisingly, after this mth, this yr's 2 road taxes & car insurance are all set aside for. Whew...

Also received a pamphlet on the GST package. Looks like most ppl will fall into the $800 for 4 years group cos i tink a 4-room flat's annual value shouldnt be lower than 5K rite? Wonder if shld juz keep the money there or withdraw & put into bank account. Hopefully, after 5yrs, will save enuf to invest & generate more income!

Was msging XW & we both think dat having kids in sg is too difficult. I tink most women would wan a child at least but so many hurdles...I mean, even getting a flat in sg is not cheap loh. I tink for everyone's benefit, even thou i bot a new flat in Jurong West (supposedly the most ulu place on earth), its costs abt $226,000 for a 5-room premium. Chris's dad bot their 4-room (which is bigger than our 5-room btw) at 90K, which was juz fully paid up when he passed away :( He slogged his whole life ever since he was 16 & was nv w/o a job. Single-handledly brought up 4 brats & a wife & fully pay for a 4-room with his own $ when he finally reach 54. But he nv got the chance to enjoy his retirement & nv got to witness any of his sons' marriage. So afraid dat when we r old, we will also end up lidat.....

Happiness - In our own hands?

Was talking to XW just now & telling her that the lower the expectations, the happier you will be. All along, dats my philosophy but was at the same time, emailing with a fren & i also brought up this issue of lowering expectations so as to stay happy & contented. She commented dat she thought lowering expectations would be lowering oneself's standard? Like forcing yourself to accept less? Wouldnt one be a 'lesser' person liao becos he/she expects less? Duno if u guys noe wat im talking about.

Sometimes, Chris would tell me dat he doesnt wana pamper me too much in case he's not able to maintain dat standard in the long term. Smart of him i would say but of cos, i nv say dat to him, lol. I tink in a r/s, taking each other for granted comes pretty easily as time goes on. Its so easy to expect him to fetch us places juz becos he was able to do for a period of time. Its so easy to expect nightly calls just becos he has been doing dat all along. Its so easy to expect him to offer help becos usually, he's very auto. I try to remind myself to not take things for granted. Dun expect dat he'll always wash dat cup after use juz becos he has been doing it for a few mths. Dun expect dat he will surely fetch me to the mrt in the mornings juz becos he has been doing it. Dun expect him to be just as attentive or sweet juz becos he was lidat last time.

I mean, we are all human beings & we do let things slide after a while. Even us women :) We are not longer as gentle, no longer as sweet & no longer as tolerant. Certainly no longer as sweet-tempered, lol. Its normal to take things for granted. Its normal to let things slide. Its normal to be taken for granted. So how? I think communication is the key loh. Juz say it out. Juz be straight to the point. Dun detour to Tuas & go to Changi when the destination is actually Redhill. Watever u r not hapi about, just say lar! But of cos, there r ppl who cannot take the truth.

A: Tell me, just tell me wat u r not hapi abt!

B: No, i jus wan to say blar blar blar

A: So? I still dun get it? Juz say can anot?

B: Ok, wat i reali tink is ABCDEFG

A: U fucked up chicken, u @%#$@%@, and i @%#$@% & u still @%#$@$.

Well, for ppl out there who have partners who cannt take the truth or juz simply duno how to listen (they do selective hearing mind u), u can only train them by continuing to tell the truth. Yes, you will be abused verbally & emotionally. But at least the truth is out rite? At least u've tried! *clap clap* Communication is so impt yet so difficult. We all have different frequencies. There is no rite or wrong. But lets juz try to tune to the same frequency to understand each other better :)

World Peace!

Irritating People

You noe how some ppl juz irks u to the bone?? Now dat im in the company for 10mths, i manage to know some interesting but also 2 annoying fucks.

There is this one short & wrinkled woman. She's from the library & rumoured to be a spinster. Nothing against spinsters ok. But i dun understd why she has to go around, spreading news dat she has an ang moh bf & dat he's v rich & he wants to come to sg & buy property for her so dat they can b together etc & how dat ang moh bf says dat he has nv met anyone like her & he's totally mesmerized by her. I totally dun believe dat such thick-skinned ppl exist but she proved me wrong by trying to flaunt her imaginary bf in front of my colleague who looked like she wana die from listening to her gross lies. "Oh, he keeps telling me dat i've made him the happiest man on earth simply by being myself". I was like, wtf! She's super short. I'll give her a 1.45m? Her dressing grosses me to the max. Why wear low-cut tops when the boobs are like, sagged to the waist liao? Her hair looks like invaded bird's nest. And she's so jealous of younger women. Its not our fault that our parents had sex later than yours rite? She was like telling me, oh my bf prefers older women cos we are more mature, so more substance lidat loh. Helo??! I duno im suay or wat but everytime im combing my hair or adjusting my top, she will magically appear at my side & say, aiyo so vain ar, no work to do isit, later i tell ur boss leh! Is she trying to be chummy or be a bitch? She will look at my photo with Chris & say, actually, ur hubby also not v good-looking hor...but i guess he shld be quite well-off rite? .............. No, Chris is definitely not good-looking but im not good-looking either so there. She's forever trying to fish for info. The real eng one is her.

Another irritating fuck is this woman who keeps buying things NON-STOP & complains she has no $! I mean, even $2 for white-gold also dun have meh? Reali cheapo. She will shop during lunch & after work & parade her buys to ppl around her but when it comes to donations, dun even expect a cent from her hor. Still got the cheek to say her bf & parents sponsor some of the purchases mah. Shameless. 28 liao loh! But i think i find everything abt her shameless ever since she says she has no $ to give white gold, lol. I hardly see her wear the same outfit twice. She's always walking near the counter & tink the IOs are admiring her but a few IOs told me, they are juz curious why a lump of fats keep parading around. I tink she got bf, she shld be thankful already. And pls, the money u spend on clothes alone, can probably get you reali good slimming sessions with any reputable slimming salons. But since ur heart is so black, no matter how slim u are, also makes no diff.

My colleague tried to 'counsel' me, saying dat ppl who like to boast, like to hear ppl praise & admire them are quite pitiful becos they lack self-esteem mah. U dun hear confident ppl gg around flaunting or showing off rite? So juz do a good deed by smiling & nodding ur head loh. I was like, wah lidat also can. She say why not? Everyday face such fucks, skin also become so thick until dao1 qiang1 bu4 ru4. I think i agree with her.

Secret Recipe

No, im not gg to give or say i've find out some secret recipes or wat but im here to rave abt the outlet Secret Recipe!!!!!!!

It is very rare dat Chris would wana accompany me to juz sit down & enjoy desserts but ytday, we went Marina Square & had the chance to sit there & enjoy the food. Really really nice. It is the perfect place to sit, eat sinful food & catch up hence i came up with this brilliant idea of having a catch-up at Secret Recipe! I think its not too ex as well...I had a slice of baked cheese & hot choc which cost about $9? Chris has iced choc & beef lasagne. The beef lasagne costs $8.50 but i find the portion abit small. Its not a place to have a proper meal i tink but juz sit there & slowly eat dat kind. Nice! I even saw this granny who ate quite abit & later, had to remove her dentures *yeeks*

End Product

Fever today but i took leave instead of seeing doc. Really dun tink i can walk out to the bus-stop, walk for bus then drag myself to the clinic. I dun even noe where got clinic thou Chris tot mrt there got one. He doesnt noe of any other clinics becos he duno how take bus, so duno how to tell me how to go. ZzzZz...im gg back to slp soon. Sneezing like mad again.

Preparing the youg tau foo soup! Lidat total $3.50 nia! Amazing...

End product! See the giantic plate of rice on the left? Yes, Chris eats dat much.

Updates with pics

Juz came back from West Mall cos i desperately need a new pair of pants. Im so desperate that the minute i walked into Osmose, i asked the salesger to let me try any kind of long pants dats in size 1. Sadly, the only size 1 pants they have rite now are only in moss green & white colour. I would prefer dark grey or black or even beige but no stock :( Left my number & asked them to call the minute they have stock. Im sure they will cos i only buy my pants from them -_-"

Pics!!! Told u gals dat im so stressed over Chris's relatives arrival ytday rite? Things werent so bad after all cos i caught his uncle leaving our hse to take a smoke outside. They all came around 9pm & even the little kid (the one who ran upstage during Ivan's wedding to scream yum seng) came with his soccer ball & he played the ball on the platform with his mum who's already 5mths pregnant.

U gals noe this saying dat if u ask the elder sibling whether he wants a brother or sister, the elder sibling is usually correct. This kid insists on having a little brother. Guess the Ang tradition of bearing boys only will go on. They only stayed till 1am plus i tink. Cos i slpt at around 12.30am. The ones playing in the living room nv smoke but now, my mahjong room does stink of smoke. But they opened the windows, closed the door & switched on the fan cos i tink the mum knows i hate smoke. Am reali glad they were actually quite auto last nite. One of the aunties took a shit in the toilet & when kim hock went in, he nearly fainted & he came out warning everyone not to use the guest toilet 1st cos it was juz kenna bombed.

Look wat his relatives left behind after they left!!! Im quite touched reali, by their gestures. I mean, mangoes!!! Aiyoh...reali nice of them. But i duno why they left the 'si4 se4' cards here *shudder*

Juz now bot the yong tau foo & veg from Shop & Save at West Mall. I'll be preparing this for dinner. Bot the chicken cubes too. Hope will turn out ok cos i tink juz throw everything tog & boil can liao.

Made agar agar ytday afternoon. Ok, dun look very appetising but its edible lar, heh~

I made pancakes for bfast ytday morning. Chris says its nice! This is my 2nd attempt. 1st time sucks. Made with Betty Crocker's & ate with butter & maple-flavoured syrup bot from NTUC. Not bad loh...i dun tink i will ever eat Mac's hotcakes meal. Reali expensive compared to doing it at home.

This is the Whirlpool microwave dat my ah-ma gave us. The 1st one is exactly the same as the one in the pic now! She says she got them free from lucky draw but i wonder how the heck can she win 2 similar microwaves??! 1st one spoiled so we went back to get another one from her & we were shocked to see dat its the same model as the spoilt one. Hope this one wun spoil.

Chris's frens coming over on Tues to play overnite mahjong again. We'll b having zi cha dinner together on Tues nite at the 24hr kopitiam near our plc cos his fren's birthday loh..asked me to join as well cos he paiseh everything come over to disturb. So? Drinks above are for them. I tell u, army guys are forever hungry & thirsty.

I realised its impossible not to learn how to cook. I reali detest cooking cos i hate the washing up but now, i tink abit bobian cos if i cook, weekends meals are actually not as expensive. Will be learning how to cook sambal kang kong next followed by bak kut teh. I also bot tang yuan juz now in case sometimes wana eat, juz can boil but i realised i forgotten abt pandan leaves...I tink need pandan leaves then can cook tang yuan....

I've suggested to Chris having a blog juz for the 2 of us so dat we can blog abt wat we wana say when we cant open out mouths sometimes. He tinks it a good idea except that, he may not have the time to blog. ZzzZzzz....

Rather Thought Provoking

Was reading Mr Brown's blog just now & it was discussing about birth rates in sg. Somehow or rather, it sparked a discussion on whether the govt shld assist parents who decide to give birth to the child knowing that it would be borned 'defective'. Or would it be better to abort the unborn child if pre natal screening determines that he/she will be 'defective' either mentally or physically -_-" One of the comments suggested that govt shld only assist parents who unknowingly gave birth to defective kids whereas those who did so against all odds shld shoulder the responsibilities themselves.

Most of the comments reflected the same view as in, no matter wat, the child has the right to live. No-one shld take dat rite away from him/her and that whether knowingly or unknowingly, society shld still lend a hand. The minority (i tink 2 only?) felt dat its better to abort the child if pre natal screening shows that the kid would be borned with a major mental or physical disability becos the parents would not be able to care for them forever & its actually torture for such kids to come into the world because of today's society. There would be discrimination. They would be left behind.

Abit sad to read that post with the many comments. Wondering how u guys think abt this? Whether to give birth to the defective child anot lies in the hands of the parents rite? The child cannot make any decision anyway rite? If the child is not able to make any decision on its own fate, isit rite to say dat it has the rite to live? -_-" I mean, it doesnt noe wat the heck is happening rite??? Or does it? If u r the defective child, would u wana come into this world? Does it mean dat parents who decide to go ahead really love the child & those who decide not to, dun?

Well...i belong to the minority group -_-"

I tink different cirumstances will lead one to a different choice. If one is rich, childless & nearly over the prime child-bearing age, i tink no matter wat, they will still give birth to the kid & try their best to bring them up. One who is financially tight & relatively young & healthy would probably give it a miss? Religion & personal values would play a big part.

But if im the parent of a 'defective' child, i would be reali sad to know dat my child is not welcomed becos it is deemed to be a liability. I would also worry that no-one would be able to care for him/her after i die. Very perplexing issue....

WTF

Told u gals abt the PSA $ dat our company is giving out rite? $600 for me but becos i only joined in May, im only getting abt $399. I tot hor, at least i can get $300+ after CPF deduction. But hor...A freaking fuck sent mass emails to explain dat the amt indicated on the letter (dats $399 for me), is INCLUSIVE OF BOTH EMPLOYER & EMPLOYEE'S CPF CONTRIBUTION BECOS UNDER DUNO WAT MOF REGULATIONS, EMPLOYER CPF CONTRIBUTION FOR ADDITIONAL WAGES IS BORNE BY EMPLOYEE!

Great.

So, im getting $266 thereabout. Instead of $320+.

THANKS HOR.

Its a boring post (pls bear with me)

My dear ah-ma visited our new plc during CNY & she was asking if we cook our own meals. haha. Told her dat we do not even have a microwave or a rice cooker but we have plenty of rice in the rice bin. The whole 5kg dat we bot is still stagnant there, collecting dust~ My aunty was so hapi to hear dat cos my ah-ma has an extra microwave & its new & have nv been used! (but i tot electronic items spoil v fast when we dun use for very long??).

So Chris collected the microwave & rice cooker (thrown in by my ah-ma) when he went to her hse to collect. Its a Whirlpool one ok! Supposed to be more ex than the electrolux one dat i've been eyeing for 2mths but i suspect its an old model becos i cannt find the pic on the whirlpool website to show u guys. But i do have the pic of the 0.8L Toyomi electric rice-cooker, lol. Very obiang colour reali but beggars cant be choosers~

The funniest thing is, my ah-ma also gave us a washing machine cover. I nv knew wat a washing machine cover is until i saw one. And the worst thing is, my ah-ma gave one dats meant for a top-load ;D Very hapi dat my kitchen now has 2 more new things! I realised i like looking at those mini kitchen gadgets whenever im in Courts, HN etc. I like to look at mini coffee-makers (i dun drink coffee), sandwiches maker (i prefer soft rather than crispy sandwiches), juice blenders & any other shit dats supposed to make life easier for u. I love staring at the gorgeous hi-fi systems (they have a few in brilliant white!) but actually, they r juz meant to look nice & not much uses also. Of cos, with the extra cash we are getting in March, most of them will be set aside for car & savings since we dun have to buy microwave already.

I realised im paranoid abt cleanliness as well. I vaccum almost everyday (even kitchen & toilets cos sometimes got my hair lying around), mop at least twice a week, wash clothes thrice a week, wash toilet bowls twice a mth, wipe the study table, tv console & coffee table, kitchen cabinets once a week. Im most paranoid abt the kitchen. I dun cook at all (unless u count cooking maggi mee & instant porridge) & yet, im wiping & cleaning the whole kitchen once a week. I like to wipe non-stop & i even climb on stools so dat i can reach the top of the fridge & my glass hood to clean the dust. I also use glass cleaning agents to clean the kitchen glass doors whenever i see dust. This is reali stupid but i cant help it. I even remove the detergent dispenser of my washing machine & wash it clean & wipe the insides in case anything gets choked. Am i siao or wat????? I tink im not supposed to mop parquet floors but i cannt help it & i will use very hot water to mop (so dat the water evaporates very fast) & blast the fans at the floors so dat the wood wont rot. I also use the Lysol (anti-bacterial) spray in my 2 toilets & all the rubbish bins regularly & i buy Air-wick to put in toilets & Thirsty Hippos in ALL wardrobes & cabinets. I tink i have abt 12 Thirsty Hippos lying around. Im simply paranoid abt smells..esp those damp smells.

Shall not bore u guys any further...zzzz....

Lets all look forward to the July & Dec bonus & also to payday every month!

Where have all our $ gone to??!

I hope this year passes quickly becos after this year, i tink the financial side will look more favourable becos as at now, we r damn bloody poor. Poor as in, not enuf to have extras..juz enuf to pay the bills. Like wat XW always say, at least u can afford to pay the bills mah. Yar lar, wat u say is true lar but even if wanna watch movie or eat mac also must tink twice then something wrong rite???! Feel like complaining so pls bear with me....

Expenditures

1. SP bill (water, electricity, gas)
2. Internet
3. SCV
4. Conservancy
5. Property tax (but its only once a yr & we juz paid $185 *ouch*)
6. My M1 handphone bill
7. My monthly insurance
8. My mum's mthly allowance
9. My mthly Ezlink top-up
10. Chris's mum's SCV
11. Chris's mum's conservancy
12. Chris's income tax (by giro every mth)
13. Chris's personal insurance
14. Chris's M1 handphone bill
15. Our car loan
16. Our renovation loan
17. PETROL
18. Misc like, summons (we kenna summoned 4 times in a row amounting to a grand $140 this mth.....aiweeeee.......), angbaos, groceries.

And i haven include food for both of us yet. Yeah!!!! Things are looking 'great' too with the increase in GST *thumbs-up* On top of everything, we have to save up for the car road tax & car insurance. Car servicing also come very fast cos Chris travels very long distances...we have this new car for abt 3mths & we've already gone servicing twice (but actually shld b thrice but Chris forgot abt one). Each time costs abt $100 plus? Plus we buang car & paid dat FUCKING BLOODY SON-OF-A-BITCH $300 when our own big dent only cost $70. DUN ASK~ Its a long story & i rather juz pay dat sucker $300 & get rid of him.

Its a blue Monday. ZzzZzzzz....

Shopping

Do we gals reali take soooo long to shop? To b honest, i prefer to shop alone or with frens with same target or simply juz help a fren to find something nice to wear for her (cos usually i can get to buy something when im not looking to buy something!). Some comments i've come across the forum..haha...

"Remember going out with a gf of mine... and it was like shop after shop after shop... and best part is...me no good in choosing de... and had to come up with things to say for every shoe she chose to be frank..my legs were aching..mind was (can i say blanking) and yet there she was.. fresh as she was when she stepped out of the house. and guess wad follows... next day haf to go thrugh the same process again.. at another shopping mall."

"Yah..dat feeling... damn fed up... and if u go back... either the shoe shop is damn far away by then or when u go back..the size no more le"

"No wonder us guys never seem to lose interest in woman coz women realli are interesting"

"They are indeed interesting animals ,they spent money go do the dunno wat medicure or pedicure in the end nails grow long must cut away."

"Shopping with girls good! especially in shoe shop, got lots of downblouse to see!"

"The funny thing is after hearing the guy's opinion the girl makes her own decision regardless guy's opinion "

"Sorri bro i have to correct u here. they already decided B4 they hear our opinion, they juz ask so that u dont feel lonely standing there "

"Ever shop with a gf from shop open till shop closed? i did... i was wearing my jordan basketball shoes while she's in her high heels *donno hw many inch lah* and we reach shop like no tomorrow onli sitting down while we had lunch and dinner and she still went out to club after that... now thats scary... "

"For shopping ever shop from 11+am to it close abt 10pm....record at a shop is 2hrs+..just a shop alone...nbz i play court soccer 4-8 pm or a full 90min field match also not so tired shopping with my gal "

"Worse is u spent 1-2 hrs in one shop with her but end up buying nothing "

"Come to think of it... preparation for POP parade during recruit days was never this tough... though my company was the one doing bayonet fighting... it was more enjoyable doing bayonet fighting under hot sun... then to shop in air con environment and carry the loads and loads of shopping bags"

LOL...i myself cannt last very long for shopping trips. If i go with Chris, its worse cos we can finish strolling Vivocity in 30mins, lol. Its juz hard to shop with a guy around. He cant give constructive comments & he'll juz be wasting his time waiting for me to decide. Not reali wat we would call quality time rite? So, i reali dun classify shopping as couple time. Its more like a therapy for me, lol. I find dat i buy alot more things when he's not around to sulk, sigh, stand like Stamford Raffles & he's not even paying. I dun blame him cos if its me following him to Sim Lim Sq to look at computer gadgets & stuff, i tink i will head to OG myself rather than accompany him.

Some dumb stuff

As u gals noe, Chris's fren passed away on Monday due to an accident. This poor dude lost control of his bike & died on the spot at 4am on his way to camp :( Chris went to his funeral on Tue nite & many campmates 'camped' there to take turns to watch over so dat the family can rest. Of cos, so many ppl, cannt dun play mahjong rite? So he played overnite mahjong there. Last nite (which is Valentine's Day), he went to the funeral again & played overnite mahjong again~ I tink im a very gd wife to him already cos i dun mind being left alone at home on V-day ;D Where can find such a wife rite? lol Anyway, he better win some $ ytday nite, lol.

Today IS the day. 11 guys will be coming my hse to play overnite mahjong as tml is an off day for ALL of them. I wonder hw am i gg to slp tonite. I still have to work tml u noe? Still, we've prepared ALOT of drinks for them cos army guys are usually forever hungry & thirsty. They'll be coming over together with Chris after their steamboat dinner at Marina. So? Im havin dinner alone...zzz....getting reali boring...

Lunchtime today, went This Fashion & bot 1 tanktop & 1 t-shirt for $6!!! I cant say its v good quality & cannt even try one loh...but im quite sure it fits so ok lar. Feel like taking leave tml but so many ppl taking leave. But im taking PM leave on 21 Feb (Wed) & nite time will be gg Astin's condo for a home-cooked dinner ;D Very long nv eat home cooked food, so bringing Chris along too :D Oh, i also bot a trial size of shampoo & conditioner for $13. Brand is charlesWorthington & heard JW say dat its not bad (if i rem correctly) & im quite lazy to always have to go back Sengkang to buy the shampoo from my hairdresser. Hope it works, then i gota source for a hair treatment mask liao.

Nowadays take more care with my hair cos after he cut away all the damaged part of my hair & rebonded it for me, my hair definitely looks nicer & feels lighter when i wash my hair now! Decide not to dye in the end cos dun wish to subject my hair to another chemical treatment (else will drop alot more) & also, i hate to see BLACK regrowth. And im not tai tai who can always go touch up the roots loh. HAI...i would love to dye my hair thou..when im feeling rich, i will, lol~

Happy CNY to everyone! Would be taking pics during CNY but duno when can upload cos i duno why now dat i have a new desktop at home, there is no internet connection...I suspect there is something seriously wrong with my modem loh. And i juz renewed contract with Starhub for another 2yrs!!! It had better be solvable else its a torture w/o internet.

:)

A meaningful phrase dat i've come across...though of sharing with u ppl :)

"You need to have enough happiness to make you sweet

Enough trials to make you strong

Enough sorrow to keep you human

And enough hope to make you happy"

Happiness lies in our own hands!!! If we cannt achieve happiness for ourselves, no-one else can :)